Wow time flies. So I am now 4mos post partum (do I even need to use those words anymore?) And feeling just fine! The twins are absolutely unbelievably adorable and are growing every day. Mommy and daddy and in exhausting, totally worth it parental heaven. In fact, hubby and I talked recently and we decided we want to try to make a trip out around the end of April to visit them. I am soooo excited. I miss them and hope we can really book tickets and go see them! We will be taking the kids too so it will be quite the journey!
On a slightly different note, I am officially matched with new IPs from NJ! We have been talking since July, and they are super sweet. I’m actually undecided if I should just document this new journey on this blog or create a new blog entirely, so for now I shall just update here.
I have done my screening blood work, and this morning I just completed the fluid ultrasound. Doc said my uterus looks perfect! I am glad I don’t need to go through the psych eval again or home visit like before since I now have experience as a surrogate. So now I am waiting to hear what the next step is going to be. I’m thinking contracts, then I get my medication list and dates. Our transfer is scheduled for Dec 18th!! I’m so excited it will be cold!! And hopefully for Christmas I can give them good news!
I’m cleared by my OB, and I’m already on my birth control pills. We are in full swing!
I am nearly 12 weeks post partum at this point, so I think it’s fair to say the post partum period has ended…? Why not! I feel great. Well, aside from now having come down with a chest virus once again. The only good thing about AZ summers is it’s usually too hot for a virus to spread, and somehow I still manage to get sick. I’ve had this horrid cough for four days now and have once again started losing my voice. I must seem like the sickliest person on earth to some. At least I can take medicine to help me right now though.
These past few weeks have been big. My husband and I have discussed surrogacy and me doing a second journey. I decided I really want to do another surrogacy and hubby was on board with me. The first thing to do was get some sort of clearance from my OB. At my post partum check up, I explained my plans and he said I was healthy enough to do it again, but wouldn’t release me for transfer until December to give my body enough time to fully recover. Fine with me!! The only reservation I had against it was if my previous IPs didn’t want me to for whatever reason. I sort of felt guilty, and was nervous about telling them of my thoughts on wanting to do this again. I felt almost like I was cheating on them! They mean so much to me and we are so close, I didn’t want to proceed if they felt awkward about me doing it again. I even posted in one of my surrogate sites about my feelings on “cheating” on them and apparently it’s a common feeling amongst experienced surrogates. Whew. At least I wasn’t crazy. So I brought it up to M and D and thankfully, they were on board with it as well! (Yet another reason why they are such amazing people). I then thought for a while about switching agencies for only reason of possibly finding a couple that isn’t SO far from AZ, but ultimately decided to stay with my current agency since I love working with them. The next step was reviewing my profile and letting them release it for potential IPs. They released it on a Thursday and by Friday mid day I got a call from the agency that a couple liked my profile!! So we set up a conference call for last Monday where hubby and I got to speak with them (standard initial protocol), we we all four decided we want to work together. Unfortunately, they have been on vacation ever since, so I haven’t heard from them yet. It’s starting to make me anxious. I tend to have issues with my own lack of patience so I have been religiously checking my emails JUST IN CASE. Does that sound obsessive? I am just excited to get to know them.
Since it’s so early in the process, I feel no need to give an explanation to my kids (mostly my daughter) yet. My family all knows of my plans to start this process again as well as my friends for the most part, and I have found this time around there are a select few who don’t totally agree with my decision to do this a second time. I’ve run into more skepticism which had been u settling to me at first. Some People tend to now automatically assume that I am making a business out of this. Others have fears for my health. At one point I started to get angry about it all because my health is fine and even carrying twins, I had no medical issues or complications. I have no marks against me physically or emotionally that wouldn’t give me the green light to do this a second time. I found myself angry that others couldn’t understand that it’s never been about anything but the experience and ability of me to be able to help two people become a family. For those who have never gone through it, I guess there is no explanation great enough to get the point across of how special and unbelievable of an experience this whole thing is. For those in my life who question my decision, they have never had issues trying to have their own families. They have never experienced the things these couples have in trying to have a child. I am blessed to have never experienced those hardships either, but what makes me different, is I know I can at least attempt to help one more couple become a family. I have now come to just accept that some won’t fully understand why I choose to do this again, no matter how many times I attempt to explain it and I am ok with that. They are still my friends and family and they may not choose to do it themselves if they were in my shoes, they still accept that this is what I want to do. And I love them for that.
On a less serious note, since I am on journey number two now, I am going to the gym to get that extra bit of fitness before I start the process again, and I love and hate it at the same time. I LOVE my sleep and it’s been soooo hard to get up in the mornings. Hubby will wake me along with my alarm waking me and it takes everything I have to drag myself out of bed. All I want to do is lie in bed and eat donuts. Or pastries. Or muffins. And be fit already. In a perfect world right?
So now the waiting game begins all over again. Patience is a virtue.
I have to remind myself on occasion that I did indeed deliver them 7 weeks ago. I don’t feel like I ever had a c section! My scar is tiny and doesn’t hurt. No left over pains either. I do however get a smack back into reality when I look in the mirror and see my lazy stomach muscles. Definitely gotta do something about that. I had to reschedule my check up for next week since Aunt Flo decided she was ready to make an unwelcome comeback. I will be going to the gym after I get official clearance from the doctor and I have already started some light ab exercises. I’ve also been trying the It Works wraps, but I have yet to see any actual results. The pictures I’ve seen online are deceiving so far, and therefore a little depressing. Maybe they will work more once I start my exercising as well.
As for the twins, they are just beautiful. They had a scare on the 4th of July weekend when Little prince stopped eating and couldn’t keep anything down. Turns out he needed surgery to correct the valve in his stomach. It had overgrown. It happens around the 5 week old mark on infants and is a fairly easy surgery to correct, but scary since they go downhill so fast. He did wonderfully though, and has been eating fine now. Little princess is just perfect as well. I got to chat with proud mommy on Monday, and boy does she indeed sound proud. Very tired though!! I can’t imagine how they do it with both, but they are so happy, I can tell and it just lights me up every time I see a picture, read a text, or hear her voice. I’m just so indescribably happy for them.
Now that summer is halfway over, (not the weather) I’ve had my princess in swim lessons and gymnastics to help the long weeks go by until school starts again.
We are going back up north soon, but this time hubby is coming too! We will also be making a trip to see his aunt, which we are so excited to do. It will be nice to get out of the 110 degree heat.
In the near future my focus will be on getting rid of the rest of this baby weight in the next few months, making me a happy camper!
Wow I’m a month out now how crazy!!! I feel so good sometimes I have to remind myself I still can’t lift anything heavy yet. Well, I could, but I am tryin not to until I get the ok from doc. It’s hard to believe the twins are 4 weeks old already! I spoke with D (mommy) on the phone two days ago and it made my week. I loved hearing from her. They are giddy exhausted, but are so in love with their babies and it was so amazing to just listen to her talk about them. Every time I hear from her or get a text I am reminded of how glad I am that I did this. Not that I ever doubted wanting to! I’ve been all in since I made my decision to carry before I even met them. They are as close to my heart as family now and it makes everything even more amazing looking back.
Recovery I’d say at this point is over but I think my uterus says otherwise. I still have a few more weeks, my stomach tells me I have a few months, and my back says years! That is one thing that I don’t think will recover at this point. My back was bad when I had my son. But I can live with it. Small price to pay for the twins that are in this world now.
I CANT WAIT to exercise! The weeks are dragging on before I can see the dr and get the ok! I’ve started some arm exercises in the meantime. I’ve GOT to do something. Even my weight has plateaued and I still have some lbs to lose. And although I’ve really started to be cautious of what I eat, that annoying craving for soda has come back to irritate me. I’ve been doing so well too!!
I’ve got more energy than I remember having in a long time which is good. It got me through the weekend! Hubby and I decided to get rid of the carpet in the family room downstairs. We all have allergies and the carpet was so dirty even though I vacuum like an OCD woman so I just wanted it gone. We found laminate wood on clearance a month or so ago so last sat we decided it was time for a little family room renovation! Hubby cut the wood as I laid it down. It was fun and pretty easy! Except on my knees and hips. Nothing like laying new flooring at 3 1/2 weeks post delivery!! We are so happy we can’t wait to redo the playroom which hubby has mentioned doing this coming weekend already!
Things are in full summertime swing at this point. My daughter loves to see pictures of the twins, and still talks about them. She can’t wait to see them again someday.
Since I spoke of our little DIY project we did, here are a few pics from the project!
Hubby working on demolition of the carpet:
A 3 1/2 week pp me in the middle of laying laminate:
And that means I’m three weeks post partum! I feel way past three though which is a good thing. I’m back to cleaning my own house (sorry hubby but I’d rather be the one to clean), and taking the kids places, and I have energy! My scar looks pretty good too. I couldn’t help myself and peeled all the glue off ha!
I think the rug rats are enjoying my new energy level as well. Until they try to run from me when they get in trouble and realize I can now keep up with them again instead of attempting to just grab a random limb or clothing article that happens to be attached to them as they scurry away. Mom is up and running again, look out!!
My pain is gone at this point. Things are only slightly uncomfortable only when I first wake up in the morning.
Of course I still have to wait longer before I can work out and it’s starting to make me impatient! My tummy is a tad on the soft side (obviously) so it drives me nuts. In the meantime I’ve started using sulfate free body wash, aloe lotion on it, and I’m even going to try a face mask on my stomach to keep blood flow going and firm my skin. I’ve read face masks work great on your stomach! A big part between my belly button and scar is still numb so I’m hoping this helps bring feeling back sooner! Then a part above the numb area always feels like pins and needles when you touch it. I assume that will go away (I hope) and that it’s just a side effect of pregnancy.
An old friend has also come back into my life; my wine! We have had a few dinners together already, it’s as if nothing ever changed. :)
Below I posted a pic of me so far! Down 42lbs and almost pre baby weight!!
What a difference another week makes! Yesterday marked the two week date since having the twins and I am lucky and fortunate enough to be feeling pretty normal. I rarely have any “ouch!” Moments at this point unless I’m getting out of bed in the morning. That seems to be the only time I feel any real discomfort. And duh, why not when I’ve been laying in bed for 8 hours without moving? Speaking of bed, can I just say how amazing it is to not need to take care of a newborn all night long? I’m guessing that might be part of the reason why I feel so good. I get to sleep at night! And I VALUE every moment of sleep.
I’ve been off all my pain meds, and have begun to indulge in my favorite relaxing pastime; having a glass or few of wine. Hey, I’ve got a battle wound, and a little alcohol helps everything heal right?!
I’m still coughing up this residual crap from the bought of fluid in my lungs (pleasant, I know), but that is almost gone as well FINALLY. that’s been my biggest setback really, just gettin over the pneumonia.
I owe a big thank you to my parents who took me and the kids up north in the mountains all last week to help me with the kids while I really tried to recover. The worst part was the pneumonia. I would probably still be really sick if not for them helping me and allowing me to rest so much.
Shoutout to my hubby as well as he is still helping even though I am doing so well. He continues to bathe the kids for me and do certain things around here since I still can’t lift anything and continue to recover. I am glad to say I have already taken back most of what I used to do and I have so much more energy. It feels great!
Now if I can just get into my skinny jeans again! I’m ALMOST there already. If I can get those bad boys on by my 6 weeks check up I’ll be satisfied!!
When recovering from a c section, refrain from googling and watching videos of train horn pranks. Gut splitting laughter can easily turn into gut splitting pain!!
Seriously though, what a great way to entertain oneself during the quite hours of nap times!